Beliefs

We all have different beliefs when it comes to everything in our lives. Religion, politics, raising children...and dealing with grief. Personally, I do not believe in going to a grief counselor. I do not believe in medicating yourself to numb the pain you are feeling. Grief counselors know how to help you deal with your grief...but I don't believe in sitting down and trying to tell a complete stranger what has just happened to you in your life and expect them to understand the depth of your pain and the traumatic experiences you have been through. There is no way they could comprehend how close you were to that person. So to me it is all generic advice...and 99% of the time they would love to give you a prescription and send you on your way.

So for myself I deal with it the best I can. In my own way. Not everyone is happy about that decision. And I understand that. But it's the way I am going to do it.

It may affect other people in my life. It may not be fair the way that I have changed because of what has happened. But as we have all learned...life is not fair. Nothing in life is fair. So if things happen that are not fair... Shirley getting cancer was not fair. Me having to lose Shirley was not fair.

Bottom line...Nothing is fair anymore.